You create your destiny

This post is dedicated to Wanzi, Terry and Alvin.

I had a wonderful Standard Dance partnership with Wanzi. It was perfect. This post traces events backwards to recall how we became partners. I have to do this because I do not understand why most other events in my Life do not turn out as great. More importantly, I am that close to taking this relationship for granted since I cannot even recall how we became partners. Thank you Wanzi :)

It was about 10 months back when I took my first Standard dance class, the Foxtrot. The first lesson was miserable. I was alone and had to borrow someone else's fixed partner. It was extremely awkward. Soon, I found myself a partner for the second and third lesson, after which, due to other commitments she could not continue lessons with me.

I was desperate as I wanted to continue with Foxtrot. Therefore, on the day before the fourth lesson, I literally scampered around the Business canteen for a good 15 minutes looking for Fel, whom I thought might be interested. Running into Ed, he told me I needed to ask Fel's boyfriend. "Heck," I thought, "nothing's going to stop me from getting myself a partner and I am going to at least ask Fel."

And then, I ran into Wanzi.

Just like that.

Two Saturdays back, during lunch, Alvin asked me whether Man can control his destiny, or can't. My answer to him is an affirmative. It is clearly demonstrated by my partnership with Wanzi. I did not merely partner someone. I partnered a dancer who had a background in ballet, who is already highly commended by our Latin dance instructors, and who subsequently is highly commended by our Standard dance instructors.

For the majority, Life is a statistics as it is. Holding a passive role in society, most are controlled by it. How many times have we heard phrases such as "Life's just like that" or "Life sucks"? (By the way, my dear readers, unless your conscious attention has been brought to this problem, your mind is socially constructed by society to think in this manner. Time to start thinking otherwise.)

Here's another incident:

I was rushing off to class one day when I ran into Terry. He is a stranger except that I recognised him from my "Childhood and Youth" tutorial. Thinking that he probably recognised me as well, I decided to greet him with a smile. The smile was reciprocated.

In lecture today, we finally introduced ourselves proper and I was surprised when he mentioned about the greeting which I have long forgotten. It was significant to him because he thought that I was one of the few people who wears a smile, in the sea of indifferent faces in school. We had a great conversation today and I appreciate it lots. I have a new friend in him, just like that, simply because of a positive "misunderstanding". Thank you Terry :)

Of course, I am not active in my own Life to the other extreme, yet, that I am able to tell you whether despite all active actions taken, I am still controlled by fate. In my "Einstein's Universe and Quantum Weirdness" module, I learnt that because I actively chose to do, maybe somewhere else in another Universe, my counterpart, "I", have passively chosen not to do. I cannot imagine the consequences I face now if I had not spent the 15 minutes of extra effort to look for my partner.

Therefore, playing a passive role for too long, I am sure that if you, my dear readers, take an action out of the norm right now, you take the first step to steering your directions in Life. You create your destiny, my friend.